How do you describe the new you?

Generations ago your vocation was fixed for life. Few entertained the idea, or had the opportunity and means to change careers. Now both are commonplace. According the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the average fifty-year old today has changed jobs eleven times since they entered the workforce. While it’s unknown how many of those changes involve new careers, rather than a change of employers, experts suggest the number of substantive career changes could be as high as seven in a life time.

How do you describe the new you?

That’s a lot of change. And it affects how we think about ourselves. Dee Hock, the Founder and former CEO of VISA, said, “Change is the thief of identity. We can never be sure of our place or value in a new order of things.”

Visit with anyone in transition, as I often do, and you’ll see that uncertainty right away. They’re more comfortable telling you about where they’ve been and what they’ve done than they are about what they want to do. When I pressed that question with one unemployed executive I met with, she quizzically replied, “You mean, what do I really want to do?” as if everyone else she’d met with had naturally assumed she would want to keep doing what she’d been so successful at.

Putting on a new hat, even if avocationally, as a writer, painter, dancer, tax advisor—you pick it—is uncomfortable. It’s so much easier to tell people what you used to do, rather than what you are aspiring to do. Telling someone you’re a playwright, for instance, seems to invite evaluation of your success in that fledgling endeavor. “Oh. What plays have you written?” is the feared follow-up question.

So, we skirt the question by not wearing our hats out in public. Yet, there’s good reason to proudly cultivate not just your next identity, but multiple ones. “A single fixed identity is a liability today,” Gail Sheehy wrote in her NY Times bestseller, New Passages, “It only makes people more vulnerable to sudden changes in economic or personal conditions. The most successful and healthy among us now develop multiple identities, managed simultaneously, to be called upon as conditions change.”

In challenging times, as Sheehy observes, it’s good to have multiple lines in the water. But thinking about and describing ourselves multidimensionally has other benefits too. Sheehy cites research that suggests that those of us with multiple career identities are happier and more able to ward off mental and physical illness. Perhaps that’s because those who practice wearing more than one hat aren’t so unnerved when the one they’re wearing is suddenly lost.

What are some of the identities that you wear?

[shareaholic app="share_buttons" id="45982"]

2 thoughts on “How do you describe the new you?

  1. Brother Leary,

    I am convinced that concern over YOUR image can be a double edge practice. While it might be physically healthy to have multiple “layers” of security it is only in Christ that we are truly secure, healthy and hopeful.

    In love I share John 15:5 – I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.

    That last part is convicting to me. I read it “Who do you thinking you are guy? If you are not connected to me you can do nothing”.


    Love you brother!


    • Hi Chris,

      Thanks for your comment. And I totally agree with you that our identity, at its most elemental level, needs to be of one loved by Christ.

      The point of my post is not so much about how one projects an image to others but rather that our present sense of who we are merely because that’s what we’ve done vocationally may hinder us from embracing new expressions of vocation using the gifts God’s put in us.

      Even the apostle Paul referred to himself in a variety of identities: servant, apostle, prisoner, soldier, brother, mother, father. And many Old Testament characters were referred to by their vocation as craftsmen, designers, embroiderers, weavers, etc. These identities do not negate the most important of all, as being a child of God, but are rather expressions of the way in which His grace toward us is made visible through the work He’s given us to do.

      Thanks again for that reminder.

Comment on this post

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.